We wanted to tell our swingers story because we have found, through being in the swingers lifestyle since March 2005, and being on the Mofo site for about 11 months, that our lives have been enhanced and enriched in ways that we never imagined when this all began for us. This is true not only as far as sexual experience is concerned, but in all phases of our lives (for example, we were recently led to a physician who worked wonders for an ailing child of ours through a Mofo friend). There are a lot of very concerned, caring and genuine people involved in the lifestyle, and I hope that they are appreciated as much by the world in general as they are by us.
We sort of threw ourselves into the progression backwards. We initially started by attending a swingers sex club for a bit of time prior to learning about the magical Mofo site. The SexxyMofo Parties (off premises for example) are a perfect initial stepping stone for meeting people in the lifestyle with whom you have begun a friendship through the site and have decided to go a step (or more) further with. The Mofo off premises parties are always run with a very friendly and inviting atmosphere, and a vibe that is so alluring it makes everyone happy the moment they walk into the door (the fact that they are set in Manhattan makes them that much more exciting). There is music, dancing, kissing, sharing a cocktail and just an out and out perfect way to begin exploring the lifestyle. M&M turn every swingers party they host into a night so perfect that it can be put into every guests memory book. They also offer (on premise) swingers parties both of which are perfect for the phase that we find ourselves in now. Mofo also provides information regarding many other wonderful parties that we have had the pleasure of experiencing (Skin, Voyeur Event, Private List, Philly Friction and the Hamptons Party to name a few).
A quick history of our normal lives will provide a back drop for our little story. M and I have been together for 16 years, and we are hopelessly in love with each other We also have a lot of small children together. We were married when M was very young, so she did not do much in the way of experimentation as a single girl. I am an attorney and M is a model (She also college educated). I am 10 years older than M.
We did not get involved with exploring the swinglifestyle to jump start our sex life. We never really lost any steam in that department. What drew us to the lifestyle was our fantasy life. We had two specific fantasies that we shared all the time in our normal sex life. One involved having sex in public places, in full view of other people, and the other was to have an MFM experience. We would concoct different and exciting versions of these fantasies to tell each other about while having sex, and it was a lot of fun. Given the reality of our lives (occupation, family, community involvement, etc.) neither of these fantasies seemed likely to become reality, at least not in the world as we understood it (what did we know there is actually a whole delightful underground world that we never imagined existed!). However, in 2005 M came up with a secret plan to make fantasy a reality for my birthday.
We have a male friend who has had years of experience of all kinds in the swing lifestyle. He became M co-conspirator in a diabolical plot to have us spend my birthday at a swingers sex club.
We went there for the first time on March 2005. M was terrified, but she somehow forced herself to go through with it. I am a lot more adaptable than M, and I kind of took the reins after she got us to the club. I guided her through the experience, although it was the blind leading the blind. We lived out our sex in public fantasy by having sex at one of the bars the first night that we were there. It was really hot! We started by kissing passionately I could see that her innate shyness was struggling with her wildly uninhibited sexuality she wanted the whole thing to stop and to go on all at he same time. I knew that she was simultaneously thrilled and embarrassed by the fact that her thin, curvaceous, beautiful face and body were being stared at openly by the men and women around us. I made her decision for her (she likes that sometimes). We had sex right at the bar. M could not believe how excited she was by all the people watching us (and a lot of people watched some from right on top of us). We had so much fun living that fantasy over and over that the other one just sort of fell by the wayside.
The atmosphere in the swingers club was like a dream come true for us! The aura of intense sexuality literally hung in the air from the moment you entered the place. We LOVE to dance, and there was always good music playing. The fact that the dance floor was filled with people engaging in every activity imaginable made the place sweltering even in the dead of winter, and made it much more fun and exciting than anything we could experience in a normal club. Everyone at the swing club tried to look their best. People were completely non Judgmental and care free and we just loved it there We regularly had public sex at the bar and later, in the room adjoining the dance floor.
Next we graduated to semiprivate rooms, where we would have sex simultaneously with other couples, but without any cross over.
We were going along in this fashion quite contentedly for a few weeks when one night the male half of a couple approached me . He told me that he and his wife really enjoyed watching M and me while we danced. He said that they liked the fact that we seemed so much in love, and that they liked the way we touched and responded to each other while dancing. He said that he wanted to introduce us to his wife some time, because she was also quite taken by M beauty. Then, without another word, he walked away. We went back to dancing. We were holding on to each other, and the man and his wife came up behind M she was really nice and pretty. Without a word, the woman pressed herself against M's back, and began caressing her face, her body and her hair. She startled M, actually, because she couldn't figure out who was touching her besides me. We all started dancing together women in the middle, men on the outside. M was pressed between the other woman and me facing me and her husband was behind her. I could see the surprise in M face, as she realized with shock and delight, that she was loving every second of it. It was really different and unbelievably exciting! This went on on the dance floor for about half an hour. I then suggested that we find a room, which we did. While both husbands had sex with their own wives, the women were kissing etc. It was totally unexpected and totally absorbing, exciting and wonderful. We were hooked from then on. We got together with that couple at the club again several other nights and did the same thing. M. and I REALLY love the girl on girl interaction.
People at the swing club kept asking us what our name was on SexxyMofo, we looked into it, and the rest is history. It was love at first site no pun intended!
After we got involved with the site, we started to attend some swingers parties, and communicate with friends by email. This led to a lot of soft swap activity with other couples, with the emphasis on the girl on girl interaction.
One night, we arranged to meet with a couple and a single man with a date, both of whom we had been communicating with via email. The couple and the gentleman had a long standing relationship, and the idea was that we were all going to have dinner together, and see where the night led us. As it turned out, the couple canceled and the single girl canceled as well. We were already at the restaurant. The three of us were already getting along so well instant chemistry that we all decided we would have dinner together. We spent the evening with the gentleman, and we all became genuine friends. M and I ended up having sex in his hotel room while he took pictures for us. Over all of the years we have been married we never had such a sacred moment captured on film. After that night we continued an email relationship and spoke on the phone. Eventually the MFM subject was broached. We were all into the idea, so we set it up and just plunged into it. We have done it since and are really glad that we did. We can not even imagine our life the way that it used to be. The last two years have been the most special of our marriage. Although the sexual aspect is great it is hard to understand how our sex life, which was always running at a high rpm level, could have gotten better still, but it has. But it is not just about sex, it is also about true friendships. We have met so any people that we value and appreciate just as people that we are awe struck at times by the way that things have played out.
SexxyMofo has played a huge role in our dreams coming tru. The kind of dreams that take your breath away and we truly love being in the swing lifestyle!
